How Do You Bond With a Siamese Cat?


Siamese cats are a unique breed. In fact, you’ll have a very hard time finding a feline quite like them. Many people think of a Siamese as more dog-like than cat-like. 

And just like dogs, Siamese cats have the ability to form a very strong bond with humans – particularly their owners. 

Even though your Siamese kitty will love you endlessly (providing you give them enough love, attention, and care) there are a few things you can do to strengthen this bond. 

Here are a few ways you can bond with your feline:

  • Playing 
  • Cuddling 
  • Treats
  • Spending time together 
  • Sleeping together 
  • All-around loving

How can I bond with my Siamese?

Bringing home a new pet for the first time can be daunting. It’s normal to be slightly concerned whether or not our new family member will bond with us – especially when it comes to cats. 

Cats are often viewed as very aloof creatures and don’t really give us much opportunity to form a strong bond. However, Siamese cats are quite different in that aspect. 

Siamese cats crave human attention and affection. If you’ve ever owned one of these lovable creatures, you’ll know that they want to be with you all of the time. 

Beyond bonding through time spent together, there are also many other ways both you and your new kitty can love each other.

The Very Beginning 

At the beginning of any relationship, it’s all a bit awkward. Neither you nor your pet really knows what to do. 

Do you give them a tour of their new home, or some space to settle in? Well, the good thing about cats is their very independent creatures. 

Rushing them into feeling settled is a big no-no. Simply letting them explore their new environment will allow them to view things at their own pace. 

Although I mentioned Siamese cats are similar to dogs, they’re still cats by nature. Therefore, the strongest bonds will form when they feel some sort of benefit. It may seem harsh, but that’s cats for you!

In the beginning, it’s important to provide them with something. Of course, food and water are necessary for their care – but it’ll also build up some trust between you.

The Strongest Relationships Start With Trust

Before a strong bond can be formed, you must allow your kitty to trust you. Once your Siamese has confidence, they’ll be strutting around the house like they own the place. 

Once your Siamese realizes you’re willing to provide for them, they’ll begin to see the benefits of building a relationship with you. 

Let Them Take The Lead

Your kitty should be the one that takes the first step. Some cats will take weeks to initiate bonding whereas others will want to be your best friend immediately. 

If your Siamese is ready to begin bonding, you’ll know by:

  • Purring
  • Kneading 
  • Bunting (hitting or rubbing you with their head)
  • Sitting close or on you 

A Little Bit Of Loving

Once the initial groundwork has been laid, you and your Siamese can move onto the affectionate stage. You’ll want to show your feline love and affection from day one, however, it is important not to overwhelm them. 

Once they trust you, that opens the door to affection in different ways.

  • Cuddling 
  • Kisses
  • Petting 
  • Playing 
  • Simply spending time together

Of course, there are many other ways to express your love. You can try different things to figure out your felines love language.


Does playing help a Siamese bond?

It certainly does! Siamese cats adore playtime, therefore playing with your feline is one of the best methods to solidify a bond. Not only that, playing is a fantastic outlet for their abundant amount of energy.

There are so many ways you can play with your kitty. Siamese cats love playing with toys that invoke a reaction and trigger their natural instincts. 

Take a trip to your local pet shop or have a search online to see if you can find any of the following toys:

  • Fishing poles/teasers
  • Laser pointers
  • Plush toys
  • Wind up mice
  • Toys that make a sound

As you know, cats will play with just about anything. Cardboard boxes, paper bags, a newspaper you haven’t even finished reading… However, when it comes to bonding, you’ll want to pick out a toy that gets you involved too. 

Try taking 30 – 40 minutes out of your day to play with your Siamese. The more time, the better!


Do treats help a Siamese bond?

Like I had mentioned before, cats are very opportunistic creatures. Give them a treat in the form of food, love, or playing and they’ll love you forever. 

In this instance, giving your cat a treat in the form of catnip or snacks can help strengthen the bond. 

Try to give your Siamese a treat when they exhibit good behavior. Even if it’s as simple as them showing you, love, learning a new trick, or not eating your new plant. There doesn’t have to be an exact reason, however, avoid rewarding them when they do something wrong.


When should I give my Siamese some space?

Although Siamese cats love being around their humans, sometimes all they need is a little space. This is especially true if you’re still in the early stages of bond-forming. 

The key to solidifying that bond is knowing when to take a step back. If you push your Siamese when they’re not ready to interact, you risk going back to square one. 

Your Siamese cat needs space if they:

  • Flatten their ears
  • Twitch their tail 
  • Have dilated pupils 
  • Are purring 

Now, you may think purring is a strange thing to include in that list. Purring means they’re happy, right? Well, sometimes it’s a sign that you need to back off

Purring can be used as a self-soothing method. So, if your cat is purring while twitching its tail or flattening its ears, it’s best to back off.


What is the best way to bond with a Siamese cat?

A Siamese cat is perhaps the most loyal kitty there is. Once you’re lucky enough to have a Siamese bond with you, you have genuinely made a friend for life. 

Bonding with a Siamese cat is rather simple – it just takes a lot of patience. Regularly giving them love when they ask for it, playing with them often, and giving them a treat here and there will help your kitty trust you.

This trust is a one-way ticket to bonding town!


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Katerina Gasset

Katerina Gasset is a seasoned Siamese cat breeder with a passion that spans over 18 years. Her love for these distinctive felines has not only led her to breed them, but also to dedicate herself to the rescue and wellbeing of the Siamese breed. Currently, she is the proud owner of two charismatic Siamese cats named Batman and Robyn, whose antics and unique personalities often inspire her work. As a well-established author and blogger, Katerina leverages her extensive knowledge of Siamese cats in her writings. She is the sole creator and owner of SiameseKittyKat.com, a comprehensive online platform that serves as a repository of practical advice and fascinating insights into the world of Siamese cats. Through her enlightening articles, she assists countless cat owners in better understanding and taking care of their Siamese companions. More than a breeder, Katerina is an advocate for the breed. Her commitment goes beyond mere appreciation; she is dedicated to educating others on the complexities and joys of living with Siamese cats, sharing her wisdom with a community of fellow Siamese cat lovers worldwide. Whether you're a seasoned Siamese cat owner or just beginning your journey, Katerina's informative and engaging content is a valuable resource.

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